Muslims have returned to welcome the holy month of Ramadan. For 30 days, Muslims in the world have to restrain their lusts from Fajr until Maghrib arrives. Not only holding back our passions, but fasting also teaches us to control our emotions and the sentences we say when we are talking.
Talking about Ramadan, of course, it is synonymous with tarawih prayers, various takjil served on tables or those sold on the roadside, and breaking fast with loved ones.
Usually iftar together will be scheduled in advance, there are even some people who volunteer their time and energy to take care of iftar so that the event runs smoothly. However, bukber moments that should be spent with joy are sometimes used as a place to show off and compare lives with one another.
Not only that, some sensitive and personal questions were also asked just for pleasantries. Here are some frequently asked questions during bukber and how to answer them, check it out!
Work and Income
You, have you heard the question below?
"Eh, have you worked yet?"
"Where does he work?"
"What's his position?"
"What's the salary?"
You may have heard or even got this question when you were having a break with family or old friends. At first glance, the question sounds simple and insensitive. However, for some people the question is really tiring to hear, especially if the person asking has a specific purpose such as comparing their lives and boasting about their work.
To overcome this, we can answer these questions honestly and simply. Unfortunately, sometimes the answers you give are not able to satisfy the questioner. They will without being asked to say sentences such as, "Wow, if I work at XXX with this salary" or "Oh, if your uncle/aunt's son works here, the salary is also big, even though he hasn't worked for a year," and other words that can afford it. make ourselves small and cakey.
You can answer this question simply. But if you get a response like the ones mentioned above, you can also reply to them with a few sample sentences below:
“As long as my needs are met, my salary is more than enough. Needs are more important than wants."
"Well, that's good, if there is a job vacancy, please let me know, who knows I might join and have the same fate as you."
"You know what? Asking about salary is a personal and sensitive matter, so it's unethical to ask and I also have the choice not to answer."
Partner
"Why not with his partner?"
"Where's the partner?"
"Aren't you tired of being alone?"
You must have heard questions like the one above, right? At first, your reaction to hearing the question might be normal. But what if the question is asked over and over again? Especially when you meet again after not seeing each other for a long time, you will certainly be bored and irritated to hear it. Even the answer you gave was not able to make the questioner satisfied.
That's why sometimes this is one of the factors that makes someone lazy to attend bukber events or family gatherings. However, you might be able to use this sentence to answer the question.
"Do I always have to be with my partner?"
"I'm learning to be independent, so I don't need a partner anymore."
"Just pray for it, okay?"
Wedding
When you already have a partner, the most frequently asked questions during bukber are about marriage, such as, "when are you getting married?", "do you really have no desire to get married?", "have you been dating for a long time, don't want to get married?", "let's hurry up get married, you'll be old," and various other marriage questions.
This question can certainly bring a sense of irritation and annoyance. If you are one of those people who are annoyed with this question and tired of answering it, maybe you can try to answer it with the following sentence:
"Why do you want to get married, but everyone has their own targets."
"Marriage is not easy, it needs this cost, not to mention married life. Love doesn't fill you up."
"Age doesn't determine whether we have to get married right away."