Having a relationship with a man is a fun thing for those of you who are or have experienced it. You would be happy, right, if every day there was a boyfriend who chatted, called, volunteered to take or pick you up, and show his affection for you?
However, on the other hand there are signs that your relationship with him is not healthy. That is, when you are hurt physically and mentally, you also experience digital violence by it. So, you have to be observant and be more careful if you have experienced these things!
1. Your Friendship on Social Media Is Restricted
Reporting from Love Is Respect, violence in the digital world can be felt when your boyfriend tells you who can or cannot be your friends on social media.
In fact he has no right to limit friendships and regulate your life like that you know.
2. Humiliated on his social media
If you know he posted an embarrassing photo or video of you, for example: when you enter the wrong toilet at the mall, take the wrong food or drink order from someone with the same name as you, or when you fall on the street, that could be considered violence in the digital world.
Apart from embarrassing you, he's also being rude by sharing your photos or videos without your permission.
3. Asked for Nude Photos or Videos
If your lover asks you to send a posing photo and dress sexy or naked, you definitely don't need to do it.
Besides being able to lower self-esteem, sending naked photos or videos is also a violation of the ITE Law (Electronic Information and Transactions Law) and has the potential to be spread anywhere.
4. Sent consecutive chats
Greeted or chatted every day is a common thing in the life of romance. However, if you are chatting for successive times every time, plus he asks you to check his messages as soon as possible, without considering whether you are doing other things, it is uncomfortable.
Besides feeling like you're being pushed, this behavior makes you uncomfortable because you're always bombarded by chat, especially if you're busy at work or on busy public transportation.
5. Check the contents of the cellphone without permission
If that's the case, it's definitely annoying. If he has violated your privacy, it's a good idea to share your discomfort. Because you have the right to keep your private photos, chat and phone calls with other people. You also have the right to choose what he can and can't see on your cellphone.
If you experience any of the things above, it's best if you tell him about your discomfort and dare to decide to end the relationship if he doesn't show a change in attitude. Because you deserve a better relationship!