So far, the tradition that often occurs is that most women leave their jobs after being proposed or married, either because they are proposed by a coworker (if the company prohibits employees from marrying each other), or not from the office.
This assumption seems to imply that women are required to give up their careers because they have been asked by their partners and return to the ancient tradition: women's place is at home and in the kitchen. Women's duties are domestic tasks, namely: cooking, cleaning and tidying the house, serving husbands, taking care of children.
Although on the one hand, there is nothing wrong with being a housewife, if indeed the decision is made on the woman's wish, not because of coercion or following traditions.
One of the important keys is communication with partners so that the culture of 'women resign after being asked by an office colleague' is applied fairly and not continuously for women who have to sacrifice their careers. Because it should be, the choice of resigning applies to both parties, not only directed at women.
So, what do you need to consider and communicate about your career with your partner before getting married? Come on, see the following review!
1. Work Achievement
Reporting from Money Crashers, the awards or achievements you have achieved at work can be the foundation of your confidence and resilience as a woman in the professional world. To achieve it also requires a process and struggle which is certainly not easy. So, you should try to convince your future husband that your married life with your future husband will be fine if you keep working.
2. Personal Financial Independence
Once again, financial independence seems to be an ability that today's women should have. Because, getting money from your own hard work can show your achievements, become a form of self-development, and increase the level of self-confidence as a woman.
3. Ask a Counselor for Help
Doing counseling to practice expressing your opinion and showing firmness about your desire to keep working can make it easier for you to communicate your desires so that your choice is accepted and understood well by your future husband. Also, you have to see for yourself that if your future husband is indeed a good and sincere person to you, he should listen to your desire to keep working.
5. Risk of the Worst Possibility
Although no one wants this to happen, you need to consider things beyond your control that can cause your financial condition to worsen. For example, the husband was laid off. If you work and have an income, of course, worrying about this can be a little less.
6. Modeling Independence in Children Later
Just as it takes a smart mother to educate her children, the mother's ability in her professional work can also inspire children that women can carry out their duties as housewives and career women at the same time. This is a form of actualization that you have the right to show, at least to your children in the future.