These days, more and more people have relationships that most people consider "abnormal". Various terms are present, such as FWB (Friends with Benefit), ONS (One Night Stand), to HTS (Relationship Without Status).
Many of the men or women who choose to undergo the "relationship" above, and of course it cannot be separated from their various reasons. Maybe because of trauma or just want to have fun. In fact, this kind of relationship poses risks for women.
Let's identify the risks that may be experienced by women who decide to have FWB and ONS relationships.
Losing "Human Nature"
The term FWB contradicts one of the core processes of human interaction. Because, physical intimacy is designed to create an emotional bond that is fundamentally different from platonic friendship.
So, when we are in a FWB situation, we will fight against it. The more physically intimate the relationship, the more satisfying it is, the more likely we are to develop deeper and more intimate feelings for the "friend."
We can tell ourselves whatever we like. We can consistently apply defense mechanisms, but when we are emotionally connected to someone, feeling jealous because they are dating someone else is normal. And, FWB seems to contradict that.
Uncertainty and Conflicting Expectations
At some point, there is a high chance that one of you is starting to develop feelings of a more romantic relationship. If one of the parties does not feel the same way, then this will be quite a painful experience. Especially, if the situation where sexual intercourse and emotional attachment occur at the same time.
You or your “friends” really have no control over whether to develop deeper feelings or commitments. Meanwhile, when the FWB starts, there must be rules on how to interact and what limits have been agreed upon.
Pseudo and Temporary
Just like a “should” relationship, FWB also involves intense concern, not only for yourself, but also for “friends”. However, when it comes to commitment, FWB is a bit of a sham and isn't long-term, which is often what lovers really care about.
Making friends and having intimate or romantic relationships at the same time often creates turbulence that ultimately makes FWB unsuccessful.
Losing People Who Love You
Undertaking FWB also runs the risk of making you shut yourself off from meeting someone who really wants to be serious about a long-term commitment. It doesn't matter, if you really don't intend to have more commitment with someone.
But, if you end up wanting to build a deep relationship, then FWB can create problems for yourself. If your time and attention is occupied with “friends”, you may not be aware of the progress and effort that other people are making for you.
Lost Friendship
The biggest risk of friends with benefits is that you might destroy and lose a true friendship. Whether we realize it or not, FWB makes feelings change.
Well, there really isn't a right or wrong way to choose the type of date you want. However, you have to look at it from many angles. If indeed you are not interested in a long-term relationship and are ready to accept all the risks, it never hurts to consider FWB.