When meeting people, whether they are new acquaintances or old friends, often small questions are asked. But often these small questions tend to attack other people to intrude on privacy.
Because they are often used as a shield for pleasantries, unfortunately these questions seem to be normalized by the community. Without realizing the fact that the question is actually rude and makes the other person feel uncomfortable.
What's sad is that there are trite questions that are stale that are often directed at women only. About anything? Come on, see the explanation!
"When are you getting married?"
The question of when to get married seems to be the most common question asked of women, whether they are single or have a partner. If a woman already has a partner but is not married, then the question is, "when will you get married? Don't delay, you already have a partner!" did not go unnoticed.
Not much different if the situation is a single woman. The question reads, "When are you getting married? Hurry up and find a partner, don't indulge yourself!" often annoying too. Not only disturbing privacy, this kind of question also implies that the purpose of women in life is only to get married. As if, a woman's achievement is not valid if she does not have a partner and is married.
In fact, marriage is not a race who is the fastest. Everyone has their own life goals, so do women.
"Have you got a partner yet?"
One of the next trite questions that are often asked of single women is, "Where is the partner?" or "How come you've been single for so long? Don't you want to have a partner?". Can relate?
This question is in line with the question of marriage, and again seems to imply that the most important thing in a woman's life is only about finding a life partner. After all, the topic around couples is actually a fairly personal area, so it can't be thrown around just to make small talk.
Not infrequently, what is annoying is the fact that the questioner is just curious or curious rather than really caring. If you were in this situation, what would you say in response?
"When Have Children?"
If a woman is married and has no children, the most frequently asked question is, "when do you have children?"
Besides being rude, this kind of question can also corner women. The problem of getting pregnant and wanting to have children is a private matter for women and their partners. On the other hand, this kind of question can also imply that a woman's only goal is to have children.
"You're fat/skinny, aren't you?"
Appearance problems are also easy targets for small talk. Starting from the shape of the body, face, to how to dress did not escape being targeted.
Questions such as, "Are you fat/thin?", "Long time no see, how come you're spotty now?", or "Are you sure you're going to this place with that outfit?" sometimes it is often said without thinking what the reactions and feelings of the woman who is the target of the question are.
Commenting on someone's appearance seems to have become a separate culture in society. In the end, comments like this make women feel depressed and compare themselves to others. It is as if the environment is always watching the shape of a woman's body and there is an invisible demand to have an ideal body shape.
"What's the salary?"
Last but not least, trite questions that have become stale are about jobs and income. Asking about work is actually quite common to ask, but when it comes to salary, it's a big no!
Salary is quite a sensitive topic and is by no means a question to be asked casually. Besides being rude, usually asking about salaries can end up comparing one's income with one another.